<![CDATA[Predators Television Message Board]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com 60 Wed, 16 May 2012 21:19:14 GMT <![CDATA[New here - does anyone post here anymore? My family needs help against a predator.]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=5464815
Because I feared for my niece and my twin was too blind to accept the reality of the text messages I went to the police.  The Gilbert AZ police were concerned but said since the naked picture didn't have moving genitalia on it it wasn't considered porn.  I nearly lost it at that moment.  The police officer did say that it was very concerning the amount of messages, the content but there was no crime committed.  However he did say my complaint would help during sentencing.  I said sentencing - you said no crime.  The officer said it's not a matter of if its a matter of when he molests my niece. The officer did say he would go speak with my twin sister to make her aware of the "grooming" and suspect behavior of Paul Green her neighbor.  What happens after that is mind boggling.  My twin sister started a violence and revengeful attack on me over the next 24 hours, and my niece attacked my mother and my other sister with such anger it was scary.  My 12 year old niece stated she loves Paul and will marry him.  It has been a very sad and tumultuous 8 months and the void grows bigger.  Paul continues to have access to my niece and my sister has painted me as the bad guy.  She recently visited my mom in Lawrence KS and brought Paul.  He wanted to see my niece in her track meet held in Wichita, Ks.  My mother was horrified and my sisters have washed their hands of the whole mess.  We all know the train wreck coming but my twin sister is unreachable.  Her husband is as abusive as my twin sister and they've decided to not protect their daughter at the risk of appearing as bad parents.  The ironey is staggering.  This latest act of defiance from my twin just happened but it reminds me once again that we are helpless.  How can the law protect this man?  Even her own neighbors told her a couple of years ago the reason their kids can't play with my niece is because of this man.  Instead of embracing the possibility they turned their back on their neighbors.  I can't believe her track coach isn't wondering why this grown man is always with my niece.  The system protects pedophiles but when I read all the signs of "grooming" there isn't ONE this man hasn't accomplished.  I guess I just need to understand how any picture of such lude appearance is okayed by police.  Can anyone provide any guidance?  My mom's 84 but recently she said to me, "I just wish you hadn't read the messages." she can't reach my twin but defends her to this day.  She blames my twins husband.  I'm so torn up but I'd do it again - I'll fight til the day I die for my niece but counselors can't help me in Illinois.  The law seems to favor the predator in Arizona.  This child is lost and no one, NOONE is protecting her.  If I'm wrong about this man forgive me but even the police believe he's guilty - they just can't do anything about it.  My twin has already been approached and clearly refuses to heed the advice of the police.  This makes her complacent and a partner to the crime.  If the police came to any innocent 34 year old male and said, "Hey what you're doing is wrong, cut it out" most innocent men would steer as far away from the child and family as possible.  Instead he's more entrenched in their lives to where he's now vacationing with them.  Supposedly there's a girlfriend but no one has ever met her.  He lives alone, hangs with kids and his father's name is on his mortgage.  Do I just continue to watch this catastrophe happen?  Anyone who can point the direction out of this nightmare, my eternal gratitude.
]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=5464815 Sat, 27 Aug 2011 20:21:07 GMT <![CDATA[I am new here but have had a stalker for 2 years and I can't take it anymore!]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=2788608
This woman is on unsupervised probation for beating up a 79 year old lady and I even contacted her court officer and played the threats to her. I would think being on probation for assault to an elderly and threatening someone life you would get in trouble but NOPE! She laughs at me and says the police are her friends not mine and they are giving her all this info and that some police officer she knows is gonna kill me for her..."IN DUE TIME" were exact words. I called the city he works for and reported it even playing the message for the chiefs office and they promised to get back to me but I have not heard a thing. THIS IS CRAZY!!!!! I have had to change my phone number so many times I can't remember it. She claims she is getting the new number for the police...HUH???? They deny it of course...who do I believe at this point? Then say it may be in the public record. Why would you put a stalking victims phone number in the public record??? IDIOTS!!!

She has changed her name 5 times so I am sure she has stalked before and gotten away with it but I can't take it anymore. I have rights don't I???

I came across this site today:

http://stopstalkersforever.synthasite.com

I email the people and they say it's new and was put up for people like me who have had enough and can't get any help? It's new! I may be their first post as I think others should know. I don't think this woman will really try to kill me she is just harassing me to death. I have high blood pressure and have been hospitalized over this once.

I am fed up!!! Any advice?
]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=2788608 Thu, 19 Jun 2008 15:42:16 GMT <![CDATA[Resources for Healing]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1916669 Besides, this site, I would have to say that the book, The Gift of Fear was one of the best resources to learn more about staying safe.
]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1916669 Fri, 25 May 2007 13:34:29 GMT <![CDATA[How To Respond To People Who Don't Understand]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1743256
My Daughter has been kept totally islolated from her friends & family by a much older man for 8 years. Her story is posted to this site. The predator had a woman before my daughter. The woman was found shot in the head in his bed. needless to say I am terrified that the same will happen to my daughter!

I would like to know how to respond to people who say, "She probably likes the guy & she is probably happy". I find these statements frustrating & hurtful!

Thanks, ]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1743256 Mon, 05 Mar 2007 05:55:08 GMT <![CDATA[Any thoughts about women who abuse husbands?]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1673089 I'm experiencing my friend, well maybe former friend now, verbally and emotionally abusing her husband. She's now cheated on her husband, who bends over backwards to please the unpleasable... and she's being mean to her son as well. Seems from talking to her husband that she is third or more generation man hater and is taking it out on her son as well.

 

It's so sad to see generation after generation commiting the same abuse whether male or female. I grew up with an abusive mother too... luckily I did not follow her foot steps. Any thoughts from anyone who has experienced the female side of domestic abuse?

 

 

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1673089 Thu, 01 Feb 2007 04:53:32 GMT <![CDATA[Another Book Abomination]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1643154 What can we do to make this stop?  According to Larry King (on his talk show), the Simpson *** is doing another book....this one called LIFE WITH NICOLE.  Let's hope we can get this piece of pornographic trash cancelled, too. Unfortunately, King gave no information as to author (obviously it has to be ghost written) or the publisher.  Wish I knew so I could already start trying to stop this.  Anyone have any information on this?

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1643154 Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:51:38 GMT <![CDATA[Reporting a rape... a video blog]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1539224 I hope this is helpful to someone....

 

http://www.famtasticliving.com/content/view/110/38/

 

 

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1539224 Mon, 27 Nov 2006 22:10:37 GMT <![CDATA[Predators Book]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1462782 If you have been a victim of a predator related crime and would like to submit your story for the Predators book, please send it to us at info@predators.tv

 

Thank you for all your suggestions for hope and healing!  Please continue to forward all your thoughts......We appreciate your help in reaching out to other victims!

 

Blessings!

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1462782 Sun, 22 Oct 2006 03:43:19 GMT <![CDATA[How did you find healing?]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1427836 Hi All,

 

If you were victim of crime, we'd like to know how you found healing......You can post your thoughts here or email us directly at info@predators.tv please put Healing in the subject line.

 

SOON we will have the video clips up on the site!  Thank you for all your support!  We appreciate each and everyone of you!!

 

Jo

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1427836 Fri, 06 Oct 2006 13:54:01 GMT <![CDATA[THIS BOILS MY BLOOD]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1358191

David Spellman was sworn in Wednesday evening. 

He's a former Black Hawk councilman who pleaded guilty last year felony menacing and third degree assault after he pistol-whipped his wife. 

Spellman was accused of repeatedly hitting his wife in the head with a handgun.

Spellman was sentenced to four years of probation.

However, city leaders still believe he'll do a good job as mayor. He has more than 20 years of experience in city government.

The council appointed him last week after the current mayor died and they needed someone to fill the vacancy for rest of the term -- two more years. 

However, the news of his appointment is not sitting well with residents who say hiring a convicted felon as mayor sends the wrong message.

"I was uncomfortable about the whole thing because anybody else that would be involved in that kind of situation would never get a chance to become mayor," said Tony Montoya, a Black Hawk resident of 10 years.

"We believe in second chances," said Chuck Ford, spokesperson for the City of Black Hawk. "Most of us have all had one at some time or another and we don't think he should be denied that opportunity when he's the best man for this job and has proven it over and over again."

"I guess you can do anything up here and become mayor," said Montoya.

However, Ford says few have questioned the city's decision to appoint Spellman.

"There's been no major upheaval in Black Hawk, the phones haven't been ringing off the hook and maybe that'll change, but the council believes this is the right thing to do," said Ford.

With less than 200 residents in Black Hawk the city says it had a very limited pool of people who wanted the job.

The city also said Spellman's felony charge will be dropped if he completes his probation without any further incidents. 

Spellman was not available for comment.

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1358191 Tue, 05 Sep 2006 12:59:14 GMT <![CDATA[Re: Nicole Brown Simpson]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1321006 Hello everyone,

I am new here and I was wondering if anyone here has collected magazines over the years to do with the case and if they have any doubles or would be willing to sell their collection?

Thanks in advance to those whom have taken the time to read my post and respond.

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1321006 Fri, 18 Aug 2006 06:19:27 GMT <![CDATA[Abuse General Info]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1275554 To the people who are victims or survivors of abuse, please accept and know that you are not alone and it’s not caused by you or anything you have done.  There is hope and healing and, hopefully, this website will be a plentiful resource for you on your journey from victim to survivor to thriver. For you who are not familiar with abuse, it’s important that you understand some realities.  Physical, sexual, verbal and emotional abuse happens more often than most people are aware. Statistics are invalid and the reported numbers are higher because many victims are too afraid to report it.  Abuse could be happening to your friends,next-door neighbors and even in your own family. The chances are even greater that you will never know about it.  To the victim, keeping it a secret is essential to their survival.  Victims of abuse live in a world of secrecy, shame and blame.  They believe it is their fault. They blame themselves because the abuser takes no responsibility for their actions and convinces the victim they are at fault. Living in shame, fear and confusion, they are often too embarrassed to seek assistance.  Therein lies the problem of secrecy.  Secrecy keeps the abuse alive; it thrives in darkness. If abuse is not revealed and brought to light, it continues in silence, profoundly damaging the prey, until the soul withers and all hope and love of life is destroyed. 

 

One tragedy is that is that we, as parents, sisters and brothers, are not educated to the warning signs of abuse so do not recognize it. Victims often don't know they are victims and the following will provide "red flags" that we all should know. 

 

Are you afraid of your partner?

  • Do you feel isolated, bullied or belittled?
  • Is your partner possessive and controlling?
  • Do you feel like you are walking on egg shells?
  • Does your partner threaten you or your children?
  • Does your partner deny the abuse or blame you?
  • Does your partner hit, push or kick you?
  • Do you have to do everything "just right"
  • Is he controlling the finances
  • hurting you emotionally
  • subjecting you to sexual abuse
  • hurting you physically
  • damaging your possessions
  • smashing up the furniture
  • threatening to kill the pets
  • threatening to kidnap or get custody of the children
  • driving fast because he knows it scares you
  • locking you out of the house during an argument
  • telling you what to wear or how to do your hair.
If you answer yes to any of these or recognize this in someone you know, please seek help

http://www.usdoj.gov/ovw/hotnum.htm

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1275554 Thu, 27 Jul 2006 20:21:06 GMT <![CDATA[Verbally and emotionally abusive men are predators]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1245779 You might not be physically beaten, but you are so emotionally and verbally put down you felt like you have fought a battle you can't win. You become so depressed and you are not even sure why. This type of a person can be brilliantly manipulative. Did they start out great, and then start to change? Are they liked by all their family and friends? Do you never feel validated? Do you feel you can not trust your partner? Are you always told you are wrong and crazy? YOU ARE NOT CRAZY!!!!! Do you long to be loved? Do you feel like you are always walking on egg shells afraid your partner might blow up? Do they tell you you are the one with the problems and verbally beat you down until you feel like you are worthless? Do you feel like you do not want to go on living?

I was in a relationship like this and I got out.  This type of a relationship is not love, it is form of abusive control. I got out on a leap of faith. I am here to help anyone who might need it. I am now with a wonderful man. Everyone deserves true love, we are not meant to live a tormented life. 

 

These type of men are Predators. If you are stong enough to leave they will find someone else quickly and prey upon them.

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1245779 Thu, 13 Jul 2006 21:37:19 GMT <![CDATA[Thanks!]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1245729 Wow......there's lots of great advice here......

 

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1245729 Thu, 13 Jul 2006 21:12:22 GMT <![CDATA[stalking]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1244663 I am soooooooooo glad to see this site and the tv program!! As a stalking survivor I too wonder why we end up treated as the bad guy,why does these ******** get to make plea bargains and have more rights than we do? Here in Texas breaking and entering carries a tougher penalty than rape, now how messed up is that?

 

I live in a small east Texas town and the "good ol boy" system is alive and well. Because of "who" my stalkers parents are the police were actually told to back off. Being as strong willed as I am I kept right on fighting back with everything I had. It got to the point tho where the police would not even respond! How sick is that? This nightmare went on for 5 years and only ended when I moved up north and put 1300 miles between us. I came back home last year and have seen the monster a handful of times but I ignore him the best I can.

 

Keep a journal,tell anyone and everyone(but don't expect a lot of support or understanding), carry a ball bat or cast iron skillet in your vehicle, try not to be out and about alone,keep a camera of some sort with you,report any and everything to law enforcement even if they don't seem to give a darn and most important YOU ARE NOT ALONE THERE there are plenty of "us' to lean on ! If I can be of any help please just let me know. Stay safe and stay strong!

]]> http://predators.websitetoolbox.com/post?id=1244663 Thu, 13 Jul 2006 13:59:37 GMT